I think it's time we all addressed the elephant in the room, how to ask for money as a wedding present without seeming crass. Wedding invitation etiquette has changed dramatically over the last ten or so years. Our parents for example, would never have asked for money, but then they probably didn't live together before hand and own everything from the pots and pans, to that random box of 'one day useful things' in the shed. We're either clawing our way onto the first rung of the property ladder, or wanting a dream honeymoon in the Seychelles and 'bobs your uncle', we would much rather have the cash than that food processor that Aunt Mavis has picked out.
When I planned my wedding, I was so nervous about asking for money instead of a present, that I asked my family and friends before hand if they would be offended. Actually most of them said they were going to give money anyway, whether we had a gift list or not. Asking for money allows people to give what they can afford. Imagine being the last one to the list and finding out you have to get the £80 crystal wine glasses from John Lewis, for a work colleague.
So now all that's left to do, is find a way to ask... There are some lovely poems on Pintrest. I used the tags money, gift & wedding, which gave me some great selections. My favourite though had to be:
We've lived together quite a while, with all our pots & pans.
So as we don't need homely gifts, we've got another plan.
We know it's not traditional and not the way it's done,
but rather than a wedding list, we'd like a bit of sun.
So if you'd like to give a gift and send us on our way,
a donation to our honeymoon would really make our day.
But the choice is really up to you and we would like to say,
that the best gift we could receive, is you here,
on our special day.
Below are some examples of gift poems we've included in Wedding stationery suites. My advice would be to keep it fun, use a poem and take a nice picture of you and your partner on your honeymoon to include in your thank you cards.